We need to laugh more often.
This was from The Telegraph (UK). There were many other articles on this guy all over the internet. They all started like this:
“Muslim Jubel Miah….”
All of them, I am not kidding.
The man was Bryan Sweatt. I don’t know if he was Catholic or Christian Or Jewish or Atheist. I also don’t care and neither should anyone else, he was a sick person and what he did can’t be used to judge whatever community he belonged to.
But if the guy is Muslim, then we read comments or even the point of view of the person writing the article, informing us that he did this because that is what Muslims do.
No they don’t. Not practicing, devout Muslims. Just the same as a devout, practicing Christian, or Jew or good person would never harm another person.
For one thing how do these people know he was devout? He was a drug dealer for God’s sakes! Islam discourages alcohol, what do you think it would say about drugs? Drugs are prohibited in Islam.
The other thing is he beat his wife. It is not allowed in Islam.
I know some there are so many people out there who will pull out their handy dandy notebook full of quotes. Quotes that are wrongly translated and shoved out into the world to promote hate. So here is that famous verse from the Holy Quran:
Oh you don’t know Arabic? Well here maybe this will help:
Explanation (tafsir) of Sura 4:34
“Men are the support of women as God gives some more means than others, and because they spend of their wealth (to provide for them). So women who are virtuous are obedient to God and guard the hidden as God has guarded it. As for women you feel are averse, talk to them suasively; then leave them alone in bed (without molesting them) and go to bed with them (when they are willing). If they open out to you, do not seek an excuse for blaming them. Surely God is sublime and great.” http://www.islamtomorrow.com/women/treatment.asp
Men are ordered by Islam to provide for women, women don’t have to work if they don’t want to. Just saying.
“Leave them alone in bed….” as in let them know you are upset and are sleeping ‘on the sofa tonight’. And by the way this was for women whose husbands realized they were being disloyal to them, not just because they burnt the toast in the morning. I think the guy has that right if he finds his wife is fooling around behind his back.
Even then God is saying give her a chance to come around and then if she does don’t blame her again for it. Unfortunately the word meaning ‘chastise’ is misinterpreted as ‘beat’ by people who like to beat their wives and people who like to trash Islam.
Oh yes there it is, the little handy dandy note book! Yes the punishment for adultery is death:
1. ”If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die.“
2.”If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife–with the wife of his neighbor–both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death.“
3. ”If two men are fighting and the wife of one of them comes to rescue her husband from his assailant, and she reaches out and seizes him by his private parts, you shall cut off her hand. Show her no pity.“
But guess what ?
1. Deuteronomy 22:22
And under the Law of Moses death was by stoning.
The Noble Qur’an An-Nur 24:2
“The woman and the man guilty of adultery, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allâh, if you believe in Allâh and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. (This punishment is for unmarried persons guilty of the above crime but if married persons commit it, the punishment is to stone them to death, according to Allâh’s Law).”
The Noble Qur’an An-Nur 24:4
“And those who accuse chaste women, and produce not four witnesses, flog them(accusers) with eighty stripes, and reject their testimony forever, they indeed are the Fâsiqûn (liars, rebellious, disobedient to Allâh).”
If there aren’t four witnesses there is no punishment!
The Noble Qur’an An-Nur 24:6-9
6. And for those who accuse their wives, but have no witnesses except themselves, let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies (i.e. testifies four times) by Allâh that he is one of those who speak the truth.
7. And the fifth (testimony) (should be) the invoking of the Curse of Allâh on him if he be of those who tell a lie (against her).
8. But it shall avert the punishment (of stoning to death) from her, if she bears witness four times by Allâh, that he (her husband) is telling a lie.
9. And the fifth (testimony) should be that the Wrath of Allâh be upon her if he (her husband) speaks the truth.
So the husband can testify, however if the wife says she didn’t do it, her testimony stands and there is no punishment. If the husband is found to be lying he gets the punishment instead and if the wife was lying but no one finds out her punishment is with God. And if a man is guilty he gets the same punishment.
So that was to take care of the handy dandy notebook quote for adultery. Now for how to treat women.
(From:http://www.unveilingislam.org/5WomenTreatWivesSADIQ.html) These are verses from Quran.
- To be free from bondage of slavery. Ch.4:19
- To be treated kindly. Ch.4:19
- To be treated with respect. Ch.9:71
- To be kept in good-fellowship, or “let them go in kindness”. Ch. 2:229
- To be set free in kindness (in cases of divorce) and not to be retained for injury. Ch.2:231
- To seek an arbiter, for her protection, if her husband fears desertion or rebellion by
her. Ch. 4:35
- To seek an arbiter, for her protection, if she fears ii-usage or desertion from her
In his last sermon the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) stressed on treating women with kindness:
O my people! You have certain rights over your wives and so have your wives over you—
They are the trust of Allah in your hands, so you must treat them with all kindness.”
” Admonish your wives with kindness.”
(Page 790, 8500 Precious Gems, Allahdin Publications)
“ A person who ill-treats his wife during the day and loves her at night, acts in complete
contradiction of the beauty of human nature.”
( Page 801, 8500 Precious Gems, – Allahdin Publications)
” Woman is fragile like glass, and men should therefore treat women with delicacy and
tenderness as they would handle an article made of glass.”
( Page 801, 8500 Precious Gems, Allahdin Publications)
“The more civil and the kinder is a Muslim to his wife, the more perfect of faith he has; fear God
with reference to two meek beings, woman and orphan.”
Jubel Miah forced his wife to wear a naqab (full face veil).
“And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head-coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or those whom their right hands possess, or the male servants not having need (of women), or the children who have not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women; and let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their ornaments may be known.”
And say to them. SAY. You can’t force them.
My point is this, why the hell do the headlines mention this insane man is Muslim? Nothing he did was according to Islam. How many headlines mention the religion of murderers, rapists, pedophiles, drug dealers etc etc if they aren’t Muslim?
This was on Yahoo today:
Interesting article and even more interesting comments such as:
“May be Pakistanis never learn. What can one say. Why even such articles get published? She is a hero and will always be. A male shopkeeper of course would never appreciate her….”
“She is a bright, articulate girl forced into the spotlight because of the violence done to her. “
“She is trying to make Pakistan a better and safer place to live. A place to live in peace !”
I have two questions for these people. Do you live in Pakistan? Do you know what is really going on there?
The only information you have is what your media is giving you. There may be a handful of people who resent Malala. A large percent are proud. And then there are the few people who have enough intelligence to question.
Why? Why Malala?
Within a few hours the news was all over the world and President Obama condemns the attack and offers air ambulance services. This was honorable of him. But why only for Malala? Why didn’t he ever condemn the deaths of hundreds of children of Pakistan who have died in Drone attacks in the past four years? He has authorized 193 attacks and over 800 innocent civilians are dead. How many Al-Qaeda? 22. (Read this)
These children had names. They went to school. They wanted a better life. But they weren’t shot by the Taliban. So it doesn’t count.
UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon declared the attack as a ”heinous and cowardly act.”
It was a heinous and cowardly act. And what about the random killing of three men by Raymond Davis? One of the men’s widows committed suicide, another attempted suicide:
No one condemned anything. Raymond Davis went home. The men were mourned only in Pakistan. They weren’t shot by the Taliban. So it doesn’t count.
Laura Bush wrote an article in the Washington Times, one day after Malala was shot. She lauds Malala and condemns the Taliban, of course it must be a bit personal for her due to 9/11. Does she condemn the deaths of 30 000 innocent Pakistanis since her husband started his war on terror? Your 9/11 is their 24/7 even after all these years. These were civilians. They had nothing to with the Taliban. No article to the Washington Post for them.
Madonna dedicates a song to her at her concert and shows off a ‘tattoo’ of Malala’s name on her lower back. Nice to know how aware she was of the tragedies of Pakistani children. I want to see the name of this child tattooed to her back: His name was Syed Wali Shah and he was only seven when he died in a Drone attack.
He was someone’s child. Living flesh and blood. He had hopes and dreams. He was not killed by the Taliban, that is why you don’t know him.
So yes, some of us do question why Malala? Her coverage has the world focusing on one thing ; Pakistan’s rampant militancy. Ironically it wasn’t the problem it is today before 9/11. So question everything.
(I want to point out that Pakistan doesn’t just have Malala. Have you ever heard of Wajiha the little girl who drives a rickshaw to support her family? Of course not. Do you know Firdaus Begum the woman who runs soup kitchens for the poor against incredible hurdles? Have you heard of child activist Iqbal Masih? He was 10, he stood alone without the support of a family to fight against bonded labor. )
This heading is from the Bulletin of the Oppression of Women
Just because they are Muslim and they have passed this law doesn’t mean what they are doing is allowed in Islam. It is NOT.
Iran passes ‘pedophilia’ law to let men marry adopted girls
This is from the Washington Times. And I can imagine all the women’s rights activists around the world bashing Muslims.
Listen western woman, many of us are oppressed, but it is not by Islam. It is by our men. Just like you. Like in medieval times when only priests and other religious figures had an education and used it to their advantage against the poor illiterate peasants, we Muslim women are guilty of not educating ourselves. Islam has given us many rights, we are sometimes stupid not to find out what they are, sometimes too weak or scared to raise a voice.
And yes I know you are going to throw quotes from the Holy Quran in my face and say “well what about this ?” with a smirk on your face. You are just picking up random quotes out of context because you haven’t bothered to take time out to get the whole story. So that is kind of like the poor peasant who just repeated to his family what the educated Priest told him, a half truth taken out of context meant to serve the Priest. Not the poor peasant.
I just want to share some things I felt would give a better picture of what Islam really is. And please remember I am not a religious scholar I won’t have a lot of answers on the tips of my fingers yes that is my fault, but how much of the Bible have you memorized? And please remember that before you go and bash Islam and show disrespect, a true Muslim will never disrespect the Bible or the Torah or any other Book, we have been forbidden to do so. The Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) warned his followers:
‘Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the falsest of speech. Do not eavesdrop; do not spy on one another; do not envy one another; do not forsake one another; do not hate one another. Be, O slaves of God, brothers.” (Sahi Muslim)
Here is another example of very clear instructions of how to behave with followers of a different religion or who worship different gods : Chapter 109 of the Quran.
“Say: O you that reject faith! I do not worship that which you worship, nor will you worship that which I worship. And I will not worship that which you have been wont to worship, nor will you worship that which I worship. To you be your Way (or religion) and to me mine.” (Quran 109:1-6)
It means simply you have your beliefs and I have mine, let’s not fight over it. This particular verse was for the idol worshippers of Mecca, as for Christians and Jews we believe in the same prophets and respect their books.
Now to show you the above headlines are not Islamic Practices:
A girl came to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH):
“What if my father married me off to a man while I disliked this, and my cousin came to ask for my hand?”
The Prophet responded, “There is no marriage. Marry whom you wish.”
The girl said: “Actually I accept this marriage but I wanted to let women know that parents have no right (to force a husband on them).” (Ibn Maja, No. 1873).
Similarly, al-Nisa’i relates on the authority of Khansa’ bint Khadham that she said, “My father married me off against my will (she was young), so I complained to the Prophet, and he said, ‘Do not marry her off against her will.’”
Ibn Abbas reported that a girl came to Muhammad (PBUH), and she reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent. The Messenger of God gave her the choice . . . (between accepting the marriage or invalidating it). (Ibn Hanbal No. 2469).
The consent of both the man and the women is an essential element of marriage, and the Quran gives women a substantial role in choosing their own life partners. It lays down:
“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.” [Noble Quran 2:232]
This is really clear that if a woman wants to marry someone, “do not prevent them..” Also the girl has to be old enough to have enough sense about marriage, which of course a young girl wouldn’t. The women jumping up and down in the back there? Yes I hear you, during the early years of Islam young girls were married off when they were very young as compared to today, but please remember that some girls mature before others, how many cases of pregnant fourteen year olds do you have here in Western society? Marriage guaranteed they wouldn’t be sleeping around and then having to take care of an unwanted baby or even a painful abortion, they would be taken care of, the man was accountable. He had to take care of her and his children. And in any case if the girl didn’t give her consent there was no marriage anyways. Unfortunately many scholars (MEN!) put their own translations and explanations forward, and those are the ones that the media loves to quote. Also educated Muslims do not marry fourteen year olds. Uneducated corrupt, perverted old guys with Muslim names do. That does not make them Muslim. The above verse and Hadiths are so clear. Please get facts from reliable, legitimate sources. So if a ten-year old is forced to marry a forty-year old guess what? That has nothing to do with Islam, she was exploited by cruel, God-less men.
Now rather than wasting time howling that Islam is oppressing women, howl about how our men are misinterpreting it. And we Muslim women should start educating ourselves, leave behind our fears and step forward to fight against these confining cultural traditions.
(pic is from Bulletin of the Oppression of Women)
I go through a lot of news online, lots and lots of reading before I manage to write even a couple of paragraphs of my book. It is hard not to get distracted by some of the incredibly ridiculous things that are actually considered ‘news’. First the hype of some award show and then this wrecking ball drama. I came across an interview in which poor Miley explains why she behaves the way she does. I wanted to bang my head against the wall, think I am over reacting? Here:
“ All I do is work, so I eat to live and to keep going. People are impressed with me because I can sleep for just 45 minutes – I’m used to it. I suppose I am a workhorse. I love being in the studio and when I take vacation I get so bored.”
You can read the rest here: http://dlisted.com/2013/09/02/miley-cyrus-admits-that-shes-messed-up-and-has-issues/
She gets so bored when she takes vacations. There are a whole bunch of bad words on the tip of my tongue right now. Please someone send her this link: 2 Million Syrian Children… You think your life is shitty? Everyone has problems, imagine the entire world sticking their tongues out and twerking because of them. Eww gross, never mind please don’t.
Anyways I actually just wanted to give you a link to an interesting post if you are into world politics:
(pic of a very constipated Miley is from Google Images)
Today on Google I found this :
Today is Miriam Makeba‘s birthday. I had no idea who she was ( shame on me) and thank you Google for teaching us so many things we don’t know ( but should). You have to go and read all about her on Wikipedia because her story is incredible; from spending the first six months of her life in jail to becoming a Grammy Award winning singer and civil rights activist. You also have to hear her, incredible voice and catchy music. She was exiled from South Africa for nearly thirty years because she actively campaigned against apartheid, but she kept singing. In fact she sang till the day she died. So many incredibly inspiring people we can learn from.
1. What is the strangest thing you have ever eaten in public?
Nothing terribly exotic here. I don’t eat gross stuff like escargot, chocolate covered grasshoppers or fried snakes. And I never will. I did eat paan,ONCE, when I was in Pakistan. That is betel leaf with yucky stuff like slaked lime (yes), tobacco and betel nut (which will break your teeth) wrapped in it. It is bitter, causes cancer and tastes like crap. Every South Asian has a thing for it. I spat it out right there in the street while being stared at by amused onlookers. I was not amused.
2. If you had to go on an adventure, with elves, dwarves, or hobbits, who would you take and why?
Well what do you think eh? Orlando Bloom, John Rhys- Davies or Elijah Wood? The elf, duh! I think the ‘why’ is self-explanatory.
3. You are at a rural retreat lodge somewhere deep in Wisconsin or Canada. You are approached by a taxidermist who hands you a stuffed badger and asks you to put it in your lap. What do you do next?
I like animals alive running around the forest with the elves. I will probably beat the taxidermist then stuff him.
4. If you were given biscotti, would you prefer it with coffee, tea, or hot chocolate?
What the hell are those? I will have to go buy a pack, try them and get back to you. Don’t look at me like that! I have five kids, all I know about is chocolate chip cookies and Tim Horton‘s. But I like strong tea and French Vanilla Supreme.
5. In your opinion, who is the funniest man or woman alive today (comedian)
ELLEN! I love you Ellen. And you already know I love Bill Cosby. And some guy named Sugar Sammy because 1. he’s Canadian 2. he’s Indian and 3. he’s funny.
6. If you were given thirty seconds on television to say something, what would it be?
“Eh, nice weather eh?”
7. What is your idea of the most romantic date setting ever?
I’m married to a South Asian. What the hell is romance?
8. If you could go on one date with a movie or television star, who would it be and why?
Don’t know. Ok I just don’t wanna tell you! He won’t be South Asian that’s for sure!
9. What is the worst song you have ever heard?
I don’t know about the worst song ever…actually there was one by Paul Lekakis, must be the worst ever. Whenever I hear ‘Locked out of Heaven’ by Bruno Mars I change the radio station. It really bugs me, don’t know why.
10. If you could live anywhere else, where would it be?
It would still be Canada. But I would love to be able to travel to places like Malaysia.
11. Who- in your opinion- was the greatest person to ever live?
That would have to be more than one. The Prophets, all of them. They are the best, no one can compare to their personalities. Now I am tagging :
There were a lot of other people but I could only pick 11. I know some of you write serious blogs, but it is good to have fun once in a while!
(Pic from Google ’cause I couldn’t find the pencil sharpener eh. The other one is mine.)
Although Boredom is Good for You….
It is shameful and I shouldn’t do it, but I can’t help it. I read Life of Pi some years back. And I had to force myself through it. I hang my head in shame. But hell it was boring. The only reason I forced myself through it was I kept hoping that somewhere along the line it would get interesting or my malfunctioning brain cells would start working and I would actually get the story. But I didn’t and at the end of the novel I felt quite cheated. Please forgive me, all you incredible critics who gave it rave reviews. I could never imagine it being turned into a movie. But watching the Oscars last night convinced me that Ang Lee and his team are capable of magic and yes I want to see the movie. No offence Yann Martel, I am just plain dumb and totally missed the entire point of the story if there was one. I like fast paced stories which have a beginning, middle and end. No hidden meanings that require the IQ of a rocket scientist to decipher. But I want to watch the movie, it deserved the Oscar for Cinematography and why is everyone trashing Seth Macfarlane? Because he sang out true well known facts? Well all those actresses should have thought about that before dumbly agreeing to do just anything on screen, good for you Jennifer Lawrence you just gained more respect. And you fall gracefully.
(Images from Google and the Guardian.co.uk)
Michelle Obama looks good in blue. She looks good in anything she wears. You must have guessed that this post is about parents who doom their kids with weird names right? I love the name Michelle, but imagine if her mom had a strange sense of humor and named her something like Vanille or Sesame? I don’t even want to imagine the horrors of going through life with a name that is edible, however it seems that in 2012 someone in this world sentenced a poor innocent little girl to just that. If they wanted exotic names why couldn’t they have been inspired by the first lady and gone with Sasha(Natasha) or Malia? They are exotic and classy. And they have good meanings. Meanings are important. You don’t want to name your kid after stuff you put in a cake or sprinkle on a bun. Unless you are a chef, then you might.
There are creative parents like Bob Geldof, he named his daughters Peaches, Pixie and Fifi Trixibelle. I don’t know how they take that kind of fatherly genius.
Then there are parents who have absolutely no imagination and just square their last name for their little bundle of joy. Phillip Phillips, no offence, I like him too. I bet he had fun in school though.
Then some people who have perfectly normal names get bored and either date people with the same name or marry people with the same name. Taylor Swift and Taylor Lautner. Paris Hilton and Paris Latsis. Yeah I know old news, but still. My husband has a friend named Talath he married a woman named Talath. She is known as Mrs. Talath Talath.
Some parents choose names they think sound cool, without knowing what the word means. Why else would people want to name their little boy a male duck? Drake. Seriously?
When I was in school, no one ever pronounced my name right, and I swore I would name my kids really nice names. I had to wait till the fourth time. My first three kids were named by my husband and his mom. Then I had twins. And I took a long time to choose their names, so long that they were called Twin 1 and Twin 2 for many days after they were born. Then I found two Arabic names that were short, easy to spell and pronounce, and had beautiful meanings. I was overjoyed, I had picked the perfect names. Mehdia (Twin 2) is pronounced just the way it is spelled and means ‘one who follows the right path’. In my excitement I messed up Twin 1′s name. Manha,’ Gift of God’. Simple enough when we lived in Pakistan. When we moved back to Canada, people pronounce it MAN HA rather than Munha. It was with great horror that I realized I have named my daughter after what seems like a character from “He-Man”. Remember He Man, Tee La, She Ra? Man Ha….I am sorry that you will spend the rest of your life explaining you are not Man Ha but Munha, Munha and it rhymes with run-ha. I guess you will carry on my legacy…no it is not ‘Kala’ nor is it ‘Kahula’ no not ’Khoola’ it is Khaula rhymes with Paula….. ‘Call A’……Omg I am named like a He Man character too.
(Images from Google Images and Style Frizz)